Monday, July 28, 2014
10 Things Every Person Who’s Not In A Relationship Needs To Be Reminded Of

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1. Dating should be fun

Dating seems like such a stressful experience when you’re on Tindr or on one-off going nowhere dates with people you meet at the bar. Try to talk yourself out of feeling this way. Dating is like, the great American pasttime. You get to get dressed up and meet a whole new person. They might not be a great match for you but you will get to try something new, have fun with a new person, and improve your dating skills for the next one.

2. It’s not about “your standards being too high” or “not settling”

It’s about learning to love yourself and learning to find people that are capable of love. Maybe this means you’re working on yourself for right now, maybe it means you are still searching through people. Try to avoid feeling like being single is a state you are in because you are doing something wrong. People on death row have boyfriends and girlfriends and spouses so it’s clearly not about being “good enough.” Be open, try new things, be the best person you can be — it will happen.

3. It only takes one

My family has a harvest party each year (we live in the country). A few years ago my 30-year-old sister was there feeling sorry for herself for still being single. At that same party the next year the man she’d started dating six months earlier proposed. At that same part a year later they got married. So, she went from hopelessly single to very happily married in exactly two years. The great thing about being single is that at any moment you can meet the right person. You don’t have to have a high batting average, you just have to have one home run. One out of thousands.

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Monday, July 28, 2014
Monday, July 28, 2014
Monday, July 28, 2014
Monday, July 28, 2014
8 Things You Should Never Give Up for a Relationship

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1. Your imperfect magnificence.
It’s not hard to find someone who tells you they love you; it’s hard to find someone who actually means it. But you will find them eventually, so don’t rush love, and don’t settle. Find someone who isn’t afraid to admit they miss you. Someone who knows you’re not perfect, but appreciates you as you are. One who gives their heart completely. Someone who says, “I love you” and then proves it day in and day out. Find someone who wouldn’t mind waking up with you in the morning, seeing your wrinkles and grey hair, and then falls in love with you all over again.

Remember, to the people who truly love you, you are magnificent already. This is not because they’re blind to your shortcomings, but because they so vividly see the beauty of your soul. Your shortcomings then dim by comparison. The people who care about you are willing to let you be imperfect and magnificent, at the same time.

2. The right to decide for yourself.
Don’t put the only keys to your growth and happiness in someone else’s pocket. Relationships are not about authority and obedience; they’re agreements of love and respect. You simply can’t live your entire life through someone else’s fantasies. There must be compromise and the space to do what’s right for you, even if someone you care about disagrees. Give, but don’t allow yourself to be used. Listen to loved ones, but don’t lose track of your inner voice in the process.

Never apologize for what you feel and what you don’t feel; that’s a betrayal of your truth. No matter how much advice people give you, sometimes you have to feel things out for yourself, make decisions on your own, experience things firsthand, and build your own conclusions from the ground up the old fashion way. 

3. Your innate human need to be understood.
There’s honestly nothing more intimate than simply being understood and understanding someone else in return. Even when there are disagreements, every healthy relationship contains this mutual understanding – a loving space filled with listening and compromise.

So remember to listen without defending, and speak without offending. Communication isn’t just an important part of a relationship, it is the relationship. And really, there’s only one rule for being a good communicator: the willingness to hear others. Because we do not always need a busy mind that speaks, just a patient heart that listens.

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Friday, July 25, 2014
Basic Relationship Tips for Teens

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Take Your Time 

As a teen, you probably have all kinds of questions about dating and relationships that you aren’t able to answer on your own. You’ve come to the right place! Here you’ll find all sorts of helpful dating tips catered directly to you.

First piece of advice: take your time. You are still very, very young, and you don’t need to find Mr. or Mrs. Right and settle down next week. You have plenty of time to figure out what you want, the types of people you like, and what you want to do with your life. Relax and have fun figuring it all out.

Don’t Start Social Media Drama

One thing that can wreck a relationship before it even has a chance to begin is social media drama. It’s best to avoid that situation altogether by not ranting about your significant other on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, etc.

If you have a problem with your boyfriend or girlfriend, talk to them privately and directly. Be open and honest about what you’re feeling. That way, no one else will get involved in your personal issues, and you’ll be more likely to work things out in a civil way.

Do They Like You?

How can you tell if a guy or girl likes you, or if they just see you as a friend? Keep your eyes open for these hints that they’ve got a crush on you:

  • You catch them looking at you a lot, and then looking away when they notice.
  • They make excuses to see you or talk to you.
  • They laugh at your jokes, or try to make you laugh at theirs.
  • They find reasons to touch your shoulder or sit next to you.

You’re Not the Only Virgin 

It’s often reported that teens today are more sexually active than ever before, and with all of the bragging that goes in at school, you’re inclined to believe it. But what you may not know is that not everyone is having sex.

So if you feel like a loser or a dork because you’re still a virgin, don’t! A lot more of your peers are virgins than they let on. They may just not talk about it because like you, they also feel like a loser or a dork. Even some 20-somethings have never had sex! Who knew?

You’re not alone. In fact, you’re in great company.

Show Some Respect 

Whether or not you have decided to become sexually active, it’s important to always demand respect from your significant other. You both deserve to be treated with kindness and understanding, so make that your top priority in your romantic relationships.

If you want to move faster than your boyfriend or girlfriend and they aren’t ready yet, respect their decision and boundaries. If you’re on the opposite end of the scenario, stand up for your own! Relationships are hard enough without adding unnecessary pressure and drama. Do right by one another, and you’ll both be much happier.

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Thursday, July 24, 2014
Thursday, July 24, 2014
10 Superpowers Of Women According To Science

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They Can Spot Cheaters On Sight

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Don Juans of the world, look out. Apparently women have the uncanny ability to tell if a man is a cheater just by looking at his face. When scientists at an Australian university asked 34 women to look at photographs of dozens of different men and identify which ones were unfaithful, the participants succeeded 62 percent of the time. The women seemed to base their decisions on how masculine—but not necessarily attractive—the man in the photo looked, and these manly men were indeed far more likely to cheat on their partners.By contrast, the women’s male counterparts in the study performed dismally, falsely concluding 77 percent of the time that the women shown to them were unfaithful. The scientists surmised that women may have developed this ability because they stood to lose a lot more in cases of infidelity. Whereas a man may only have to raise another man’s offspring, a woman may lose precious resources needed for her own offspring to those of another woman.

They Perceive More Colors

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How many colors of the rainbow are there? There actually isn’t a clear-cut answer, and for women, the number is a lot higher. According to one respected scientist named Israel Abramov, women can see differences in colors far better than men. Having studied human vision for half a century, Abramov found that while men were better at seeing objects move across their line of sight, women were better at identifying subtle disparities among different hues. Abramov postulated that women developed this ability before the onset of the agricultural period, when they had to carefully choose edible vegetation while the men hunted for food.Additionally, there is a small group of women known as “tetrachromats,” who have the ability to perceive 100 million different colors because they possess four types of cones in the retina instead of three. These additional cones allow their brains to combine more colors. It took scientists decades to find such an individual, but researcher Gabriele Jordan managed to identify a physician from Northern England as the first known tetrachromat in 2007, and she is certain that there are many more out there.

Morning Sickness Saves Lives

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As if we needed another reason to denounce thalidomide, scientists Paul Sherman and Samuel Flaxman asserted that morning sickness is actually a defense mechanism to protect an expecting mother and her unborn child from parasites and harmful toxins found primarily in meat, fish, and poultry products. They discovered that morning sickness occurs especially during the early stages of fetal development, when the baby is most vulnerable, and tapers off during the later part of pregnancy.Additionally, they found that women who endured the most intense morning sickness suffered fewer incidents of miscarriage than their counterparts who didn’t experience it. From an evolutionary standpoint, this adaptation enabled the growth of healthy offspring and ensured the survival of the human race. The next time a pregnant woman throws up, just comfort her with the knowledge that it’s for her own good.

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Thursday, July 24, 2014
Thursday, July 24, 2014
These 23 Kitchen Gadgets Prove Humans Need To Seriously Get It Together

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Egg Cracker

Are there no 90° angles in your kitchen? Have we got the answer for you…

S’mores Maker

It pinches your s’more together. That is all.

Nana Saver

Is one banana too much, but zero is not enough? With the Nana Saver, you can eat one half and save the other for when you come back to reality you delusional muppet.

Cucumber Saver

Are those pesky cucumbers not fitting in your Nana Saver? You need this, too.

Quesadilla Maker

Do you not have a stove or a microwave or an oven? Then you probably want your only appliance to be a glorified cheese melter.

Pickle Picker

If only there were already a 4-pronged tool to pull pickles out of a jar…if only…

Noodle Splatter Shield

Even for Japan this is pretty ridiculous.

Butter Spreader

Spreading butter has always been a way too unpredictable part of my life.

Table Saw


“I’d rather be in the garage than the kitchen. Hardy har har!”

Motorized Ice Cream Cone

Stick your tongue out and let the batteries do the work. Available for the low, low price of your soul.

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