Friday, April 18, 2014
Thursday, April 17, 2014
How to Catch a Cheating Partner

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Changing Behavior 

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Do you suspect your spouse might be cheating on you? Here are several ways you can get the proof you need to know the truth!

First of all, there are many signs that indicate that a spouse may be cheating, the biggest of which is a change in behavior. Some signs to look out for are:

  • Staying late at work often
  • Change in appearance, usually for the better
  • Distancing themselves from you
  • Disinterest in sex
  • Increasing hostility

More Loving 

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In rare occasions, an odd thing happens with cheaters and they actually begin to act more loving towards their spouse. Sometimes it is out of guilt and sometimes it is in an effort to deflect suspicion. Whatever the reason, if you feel your spouse may be cheating, don’t be thrown off the scent if they suddenly start buying you gifts and showering you with compliments. That may just be another sign of guilt, not innocence.

Don’t Act Suspicious 

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If you truly suspect your spouse of cheating, the first thing you need to do is not act suspicious until you are ready to confront them. If you start acting suspicious, you will alert them to the fact that you are onto them and they will start to get sneakier and hide their activity better and it will be harder to catch them in the act. So, as hard as it will be, do your best to act as if everything is completely normal.

Baby Monitor 

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If your spouse is constantly taking calls in another room and saying they are for work or a friend is having problems, but then they are conspicuously whispering, you can try to listen in with a hidden baby monitor. This is easier of course if you have a baby in the house but even if you don’t you can buy one and hide one in the room they usually go to. Just be sure to disguise it well so it isn’t seen and test it to make sure it picks up low sounds.

Hidden Recorder

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Another way to listen in to your spouses secret phone conversations is to buy an audio recorder. They even make some that are sound activated. That way you will have actual evidence to show them rather than just your word.

You could also install a hidden camera if you think they are bringing someone to the house for illicit activities while you are away. They make hidden cameras that are quite small and easy to hide and/or look like normal things that would be in a room.

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Thursday, April 17, 2014
10 Painfully Obvious Truths Everyone Forgets Too Soon

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1. The average human life is relatively short.
We know deep down that life is short, and that death will happen to all of us eventually, and yet we are infinitely surprised when it happens to someone we know. It’s like walking up a flight of stairs with a distracted mind, and misjudging the final step. You expected there to be one more stair than there is, and so you find yourself off balance for a moment, before your mind shifts back to the present moment and how the world really is.

LIVE your life TODAY! Don’t ignore death, but don’t be afraid of it either. Be afraid of a life you never lived because you were too afraid to take action. Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside you while you’re still alive. Be bold. Be courageous. Be scared to death, and then take the next step anyway.

2. You will only ever live the life you create for yourself.
Your life is yours alone. Others can try to persuade you, but they can’t decide for you. They can walk with you, but not in your shoes. So make sure the path you decide to walk aligns with your own intuition and desires, and don’t be scared to switch paths or pave a new one when it makes sense.

Remember, it’s always better to be at the bottom of the ladder you want to climb than the top of the one you don’t. Be productive and patient. And realize that patience is not about waiting, but the ability to keep a good attitude while working hard for what you believe in. This is your life, and it is made up entirely of your choices. May your actions speak louder than your words. May your life preach louder than your lips. May your success be your noise in the end.

And if life only teaches you one thing, let it be that taking a passionate leap is always worth it. Even if you have no idea where you’re going to land, be brave enough to step up to the edge of the unknown, and listen to your heart. 

3. Being busy does NOT mean being productive.
Busyness isn’t a virtue, nor is it something to respect. Though we all have seasons of crazy schedules, very few of us have a legitimate need to be busy ALL the time. We simply don’t know how to live within our means, prioritize properly, and say no when we should.

Being busy rarely equates to productivity these days. Just take a quick look around. Busy people outnumber productive people by a wide margin. Busy people are rushing all over the place, and running late half of the time. They’re heading to work, conferences, meetings, social engagements, etc. They barely have enough free time for family get-togethers and they rarely get enough sleep. Yet, emails are shooting out of their smart phones like machine gun bullets, and their day planners are jammed to the brim with obligations. Their busy schedule gives them an elevated sense of importance. But it’s all an illusion. They’re like hamsters running on a wheel.

Though being busy can make us feel more alive than anything else for a moment, the sensation is not sustainable long term. We will inevitably, whether tomorrow or on our deathbed, come to wish that we spent less time in the buzz of busyness and more time actually living a purposeful life.

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Monday, April 14, 2014
12 Lies People Love to Tell You

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1. What you need in life is comfort and safety.
If you want to make an impact, big or small, get comfortable with being uncomfortable. All growth begins at the end of your comfort zone. Maybe the thing you’re scared of is exactly what you should do. Sometimes life is about risking it all for a dream no one can see but you.

2. You have way too much to lose.
In the end, you will not regret the things you have done nearly as much as the things you have left undone. It’s always better to be left with a few “oh wells,” than a bunch of “what ifs.” It’s better to have a lifetime full of experiences and mistakes you learned from, rather than a heart full of regrets and empty dreams. Someday you will want to look back at your life and say, “I can’t believe I did that!” instead of, “Gosh, I wish I would have…” 

3. Your dream is impossible.
When a dream matters enough to a person, that person will find a way to achieve what at first seemed impossible. Let that person be YOU. It’s kind of fun to do the impossible. Go after your dream, no matter how unattainable others tell you it is. What’s impossible to them may not be impossible for you.

4. Being self-centered is always wrong.

You must choose yourself and live your life from beginning to end; no one else can do it for you. Claiming full control over your health, dreams, and well-being are some of the areas in your life where you get to be a little selfish and not feel bad about it. If you want to reach your goals, you have to be the center of this part of your journey. You have to make it work for you and you alone. It’s not selfishness, it’s self-care and self-improvement. Anything less is a setup for failure.

5. You need the approval of others.
People are sometimes too quick to judge, but slow to correct themselves. Don’t be one of them. Focus on your own growth, goals, and self-worth. Leave people to their opinions and judgments. Let them respect you for who you are, and not for who they want you to be… Or let them walk away if they choose. Either way, they can’t harm you; it’s their understanding that is faulty, not yours.

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Monday, April 14, 2014
20 Simple Ways to Stoke Your Self-Confidence

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1. Challenge your thoughts. Identify the negative beliefs you have about yourself and challenge them. Find evidence to the contrary.

2. Retrain your brain. Negative thinking becomes a habit ingrained in your brain. Rewire your brain by intentionally thinking new and positive thoughts, even if it feels awkward at first. You will create new wiring and new habits.

3. Smile. Arranging your facial muscles in a smile actually makes you feel happier and more confident. It triggers those feelings in your brain.

4. Stand up straight. Pay attention to your posture. It makes you appear more self-confident and therefore you feel more self-confident.

5. Practice. If you lack self-confidence in a skill, practice it. With improvement comes confidence.

6. Make a list. Write down your skills, abilities, successes, and gifts. In moments of low self-confidence, you forget all of the great things about you. Write them down so you can remember.

7. Interact. Isolating yourself allows you to get lost in negative thinking. Spend time withe other people. Make yourself, even if you don’t feel like it.

8. Create boundaries. Low self-confidence often goes hand-in-hand with people-pleasing. How are you allowing someone to control your decisions or behavior? What is one thing you could do to create a boundary here and reclaim yourself?

9. Write a vision. Write down exactly how you would like your life to look if you were creating it from scratch. When you put it in writing, you have begun the process of creating it.

10. Look your best. Take care of your appearance. Dress nicely. Get your hair styled. Put on make-up. When you look your best, you feel more self-confident.

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Monday, April 14, 2014
4 Good Reminders When You’ve Had a Bad Day

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1. YOU are okay. You are just a little stronger now.
Having a bad day? It’s okay. YOU are okay. But now you’re a little stronger than you were yesterday.

Put your hand on your heart. Feel that? That’s called ‘a purpose. You’re here today for a reason. Don’t give up and don’t give in. And above all, don’t let one or two dark clouds cover the entire sky. The sun is always shining on some part of your life. Sometimes you just have to forget how you feel, remember what you deserve, and keep pushing forward.

Keep in mind that we’ve all made mistakes. We’ve all made absolute fools of ourselves. We’ve let people take advantage of us, and we’ve accepted way less than we deserve. And sometimes, we too have given others way less than they deserve. Sometimes we let our priorities and our boundaries get ravished by the chaos of the day. But if you think about it, we’ve learned a lot from our bad choices, and even though there are some things we can never recover, and people who will never be sorry, we now know better for next time. We now have more power to shape our future.

2. You are far more capable than you think.
You have to remember that you are incredibly capable of handling great challenges. But when times are good, and everything is comfortably in order, it can be easy to become complacent and forget how skillful and resourceful you are capable of being. Unanticipated troubles are necessary evils that push you forward; because the troubles will eventually end, but the lessons and growth you gain from them will last a lifetime.

Truth be told, there are two types of pain in life: pain that hurts you, and pain that grows you. But when you learn from a difficult experience, they are one and the same. Strength doesn’t come from what you can do. It comes from overcoming the things you could not do before. Tough situations build strong, successful people. So no matter how much it hurts now, you have to hold your head up, grit your teeth, and take another step. Don’t waste time complaining. In the end, persistence and determination speak loud enough. Focus diligently through your struggles. Work hard in silence, and let your success be your noise. 

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Sunday, April 13, 2014
20 Simple Ways to Stoke Your Self-Confidence

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1. Challenge your thoughts. Identify the negative beliefs you have about yourself and challenge them. Find evidence to the contrary.

2. Retrain your brain. Negative thinking becomes a habit ingrained in your brain. Rewire your brain by intentionally thinking new and positive thoughts, even if it feels awkward at first. You will create new wiring and new habits.

3. Smile. Arranging your facial muscles in a smile actually makes you feel happier and more confident. It triggers those feelings in your brain.

4. Stand up straight. Pay attention to your posture. It makes you appear more self-confident and therefore you feel more self-confident.

5. Practice. If you lack self-confidence in a skill, practice it. With improvement comes confidence.

6. Make a list. Write down your skills, abilities, successes, and gifts. In moments of low self-confidence, you forget all of the great things about you. Write them down so you can remember.

7. Interact. Isolating yourself allows you to get lost in negative thinking. Spend time withe other people. Make yourself, even if you don’t feel like it.

8. Create boundaries. Low self-confidence often goes hand-in-hand with people-pleasing. How are you allowing someone to control your decisions or behavior? What is one thing you could do to create a boundary here and reclaim yourself?

9. Write a vision. Write down exactly how you would like your life to look if you were creating it from scratch. When you put it in writing, you have begun the process of creating it.

10. Look your best. Take care of your appearance. Dress nicely. Get your hair styled. Put on make-up. When you look your best, you feel more self-confident.

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Sunday, April 13, 2014
Some Starbucks Secret Frappuccino

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Ferrero Rocher Frappuccino

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  • Double Chocolate Chip Frappuccino or Java Chip Frappuccino if preferred
  • Add Mocha Syrup (2 pumps for a tall, 3 for a grande, 3.5 for a venti)
  • Add Hazelnut Syrup ( 1 pump for a tall, 1.5 for a grande, 2 for a venti)
  • Add Hazelnut drizzle
  • Top with whipped cream
  • For extra nutty flavor, add nutmeg powder
  • For extra chocolate flavor, add mocha drizzle

Red Velvet Frappuccino

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  • Half White Chocolate/Half regular Mocha Frappuccino
  • Add 2 pumps of raspberry syrup (3 for a venti)
  • Blend

Butterbeer Frappuccino

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  • (For Grande) Ask for a Creme Frappuccino base. Don’t skimp on the fat by asking for skim or 2% milk as whole milk is required for the right consistency
  • Add 3 pumps of caramel syrup
  • Add 3 pumps of toffee nut syrup
  • Top with caramel drizzle

Strawberry Shortcake Frappuccino

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  • Strawberry Juice to the first line of the cup
  • Milk to the next line

Add to pitcher:

  • Vanilla Bean Powder (2 scoops tall, 3 grande, 4 venti)
  • White mocha syrup (3 pumps tall, 4 grande, 5 venti)
  • Toffee Nut Syrup (1 pump tall, 2 grande, 3 venti)
  • Creme base, ice and whipped cream blended in!

The Bomb! Frappuccino

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  • Order heavy whipping cream (not whipped cream) blended with only cream base and ice
  • Have the barista add 3 pumps of dark caramel sauce to the bottom of the cup, then pour the blend into the cup and add a shot of espresso
  • Top with whipped cream and crumble topping

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Sunday, April 13, 2014
21 Pieces Of Relationship “Advice” You Should Always Ignore

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1. “You should settle down by [insert age here], it’s all downhill from there.”

2. “You shouldn’t settle down before [insert age here], you have too much else to do with your life.”

3. “Taking someone’s last name is one of the most important parts of getting married, don’t be a stubborn feminist about it.”

4. “If you don’t make finding a relationship your priority, you’re going to end up alone. A job is not going to hold you while you’re falling asleep at night.”

5. “Don’t stop working just because you’ve settled down. Someone can always help with raising children, and you are too smart to be a stay-at-home mom.”

6. “All of your friends are getting married, aren’t you even trying to find someone? You should force yourself to get out there, even if you’re not ready yet, you’re never going to find someone otherwise.”

7. “It’s been [insert relatively small number of months here], it’s time to get over that relationship. Move on.”

8. “Online dating is for people who can’t find real relationships, don’t use it.”

9. “You should lose weight if you’re going to start dating again. It sucks, but you’re just not going to find a quality person unless you look a certain way. Don’t you care what people think?”

10. “You can do better than [insert person you love deeply here].”

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Sunday, April 13, 2014
15 Things You Need to Do to Make a Relationship Work

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Say Goodbye to Your Expectations
Relationships are hard. Relationships that last are even harder. Follow these 15 easy tips and you’ll be on your way to a long lasting happy relationship!

All of us have an idea in our mind of what the perfect relationship would be like. Unfortunately, that is almost impossible. Real life is full of ups and downs. If you are convinced that true love means no problems, you’ll never find a successful relationship. So the first thing you need to do is forget all of your fantasies of a perfect blissful relationship, because it rarely ever happens.

Forgive and Forget 

If someone does something wrong and you decide to forgive them for it, you need to actually forgive them for it and then forget about it. You can’t bring it back up again and again later and shove it in their face as a way to shame them. That isn’t how mature couples act.

Be a Team
Remember that when you are in a relationship you are part of a team now. That means that you can lean on each other and help each other up when the other is down. You don’t have to go it alone anymore!

Don’t Keep Score
Part of being a team means that you shouldn’t keep score because you are on the same side! That means that you shouldn’t keep an exact tally of who does how many chores or who earns exactly how much money. As long as everyone is doing their best and things aren’t completely lopsided such as one person is doing everything while the other is spending all day playing video games, small differences just don’t matter.

Spend Time Together
We live in a busy world and everyone has tons of things to do, but every happy couple makes time for each other. Even if you have to schedule time together and it doesn’t seem very romantic, it is better than never seeing each other! If you can, try to make time to travel, too. Even a single night away from the hustle and bustle of everyday life can do wonders to recharge a relationship!

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